What is fellatio?
Fellatio is the act of sucking or stimulating a penis with the mouth with the purpose of giving him pleasure. Almost every man loves this kind of stimulation, and many people, both women and men, like giving it. To men, the mouth appears as similar to, but more exciting than, a vagina especially since the tongue is actively used to stimulate. The mouth is extremely well designed for sexual pleasure and is capable of a broad range of activities: stroking, kissing, licking, probing, and penetrating. The lips and the tongue are the major sources of stimulation, and it is with the lips and tongue that you should apply the attention to make him feel good. Both men and women respond well to pressure and rhythm. A steady, strong stroke will be enough to get the reaction you're looking for.
Studies show that from 50 to 80 percent of women perform fellatio. Of those, 35 to 65 percent find it pleasurable; with the rest saying they can take it or leave it or don't enjoy it. Other studies show 90 percent of married couples under 25 giving head. Fellatio can be pleasurable for both the sucker and the suckee.
There is no right or wrong way to give oral pleasure. Practice and communication is the best way to increase pleasure. Don't be alarmed, but I'm going to contradict the previous statement. It is possible for someone to give head is a way that's not pleasurable to either party. Giving head is NOT simply making a cunt of your mouth, closing it around a man's penis, and bobbing their heads lustily up and down until he climaxes automatically. It's easy to learn how to be a terrific cock-sucker and once you find out how to do it right, your man will love it and so will you. Before you get started with fellatio, especially if it's your first time, take the time to look at exactly what you're going to be putting in your mouth.
- First, turn on a strong light and get him flat on his back on your bed. Take his penis in your hand and rub it a bit to get it hard.
- Now, take a close look at it. The main part is called the shaft. There's a bulbous part near the outer end, slightly larger in diameter than the shaft, which is called the glans penis or head. The ridge where the head joins the shaft is called the corona. This is the most sensitive part of his penis. Follow this ridge around to the underside. There's a juncture where the two ends come together. This tiny area is easily the most sensitive spot on his entire body. Just like your clit, this is where the action is. You can bring him to climax by gently tapping the tip of your tongue directly on it. The opening in the tip of the head is the meatus. That's where sperm and urine squirts from. The shaft doesn't have many nerve endings over a particular area or any special nerves. As a result, it doesn't provide a man with any high degree of stimulation when caressed, either with your hand or your tongue. The shaft will, however, respond to pressure, so when all of its nerves are fully enclosed in a warm, wet mouth that's sucking and slipping and sliding around on it, the feeling is great.
- Now, look underneath the shaft, where it joins his body, is the scrotum, and inside are the testicles (family jewels, balls, nuts). They're sensitive to temperature; they don't like to get too hot or too cold. When his balls get too cold, the scrotum shrinks and pulls his balls up against his body to keep them warm. When they get too warm, the scrotum extends to let them cool. His balls are also pulled up against his body inside his scrotum when he's getting ready to cum. His balls are sensitive to excessive pressure and are all too often ignored as an erogenous area. Men actually like for a woman to fondle their balls, if she know how to do it.
- Study his penis, play with it with your hand, and ask him what feels best. Run your tongue over it, feel the texture, watch his reactions as you lick the various areas. Take some of it in your mouth and hold it there for a while. Watch his reaction and think about how it feels in your mouth physically and what it feels like to have your man's penis in your mouth emotionally.
How do you do it?
Tease Him
Pick a comfortable setting for both parties. Lots of men prefer to lie on their backs, but others prefer the intensity of trying to keep from falling over. For the purpose of these lessons you're both situated in bed where you were examining him and you managed to get his penis hard. Kneel down between his legs and take his balls in your left hand and his penis in your right. Squeeze his penis gently down toward the bottom of the shaft and get ready to suck. Run your tongue over your lips to get them good and wet. Don't block his view men love to watch their penis disappearing into a woman.
Now open your mouth just slightly to tease and excite him and come very close to his penis. Breathe on him, blow on him with your hot breath. DO NOT BLOW HIM. His penis is not a balloon and that action could be deadly. Stick your tongue out again and reach for him, tease him. Making sure your tongue is dripping wet, begin at the bottom of his shaft and lick upwards, slowly. Turn your head sideways and pretend to take a bite of him, gently setting your teeth into his flesh. Wet him again with your tongue; use your hand to spread the liquid around. A wet penis looks and sounds a lot sexier than a dry one. It's also easier to slide in and out of your mouth. Your left-hand meanwhile is massaging his balls, perhaps scratching them lightly with your fingernails (if you have any). Remember to be gently, that is very sensitive stuff you're dealing with. After you've licked his shaft lots of times and it's all wet and hard, he's going to start squirming with frustration if you don't start getting serious.
Get Serious
A quick look up at his face will let you know when you're stretching things out too long. Teasing is wonderful to extend his pleasure. Practice will teach you when you need to go on to better things. On one of your upward swings with your tongue, from the base of his shaft to the rim of his knob, don't stop. Continue your long, wet lick up over the head of his penis, lingering at the hole in the center. Stick your tongue into it, but don't suck the head yet. Now run your tongue all the way around the rim of his knob several times, lingering to work on that sensitive spot on the bottom each time. Talk to him, find out how much he likes for you to work on that spot.
As stated previously, the shaft of his penis does respond to pressure, and there are a lot of nerve endings when you include all of it. Don't forget that much of the pleasure we derive from sex is in the mind, it's psychological, emotional. Each man is unique and so is his penis. Squeeze the shaft and see if some clear liquid pops up. If it does, dip your tongue into it and pull away. It will stretch with you and look fantastically erotic to him. Now, make like you love the stuff. Close in on that penis head like your favorite ice-cream cone and take the whole knob into your mouth. Don't just open your mouth and close it around his penis, slide your wet lips (this is why a wet dick is better than dry) down over it until they close around the shaft just behind the corona. Then gently suck on his penis just hard enough to pull a little more of it into your mouth. Sucking on it feels great to him, hold it there, listen to him moan. Now, move your head down quickly, sucking as much of his penis into your mouth as you can comfortable take. Don't worry; you won't choke so long as you don't try to take it in too far. Wrap the rest of the shaft of his penis with your hand. Remember the shaft is relatively insensitive to local stimulation. However, when you close your hand around his penis you give him the sensation of having his whole penis enveloped and that feels great.
Stay there with his penis filling your mouth. Feel it inside of you. You're going to have to keep your jaws open wide enough to keep your teeth off his penis. When you first start out your jaws are probably going to get tired, it's sort of like sitting in a dentist's chair with your mouth open. You'll get used to it after a while. You can pull your lips back over your teeth for protection and let your jaws rest on his penis from time to time to relax them. Now try the basic fellating movements. First, slide your lips back up to the tip of his penis and flick your tongue against it. Try twisting your head from side to side, up and down, and around and around, making sure your moist lips stay in contact with his ridge as they slide around. Keep sucking on it, sometimes gently, sometimes hard. While you're doing this, gently move your moist hand up and down the shaft (flavored lube are wonderful while not having greasy taste, but you will lose his personal taste). He might be getting antsy now, wanting you to take it all in. Don't let him, if he had his way it'd be over in two minutes and what fun would that be?
Then, moving as fast as he can handle it (don't let him cum yet), hold your hand against your lips and slide your mouth and moist hand up and down on his penis as if you're fucking him. Press your tongue against the bottom of his penis and let its head slide back and forth between your tongue and the roof of your mouth, watch your teeth. You have to massage the head of his penis, not just the shaft. When he gets close to cumming, get ready for his climax. As he nears his climax, he may try to slide your mouth farther down over his penis. He wants all of his penis in your mouth. Instead, slide your mouth back up to the tip of his penis, working on the corona and sucking on it as you bring him to his climax. You need to feel the response of his penis to his climax in these early lessons.
How to really suck on it
Besides just working on his penis with your lips and tongue when it's in your mouth, you should also be sucking on it any time its head is in front of your tongue (your tongue is what pulls the vacuum so its head has to be in front of your tongue for him to feel it where it counts). Sucking on the head of his penis feels quite different to him from licking it. Not just gentle sucks but strong ones, like you were trying to get something out of it, which you probably are by this time. Be careful though; don't put a hickey on it. There are deep-sucks and little ones and both feel damn great. He may have a preference however, so watch his reactions. Taking just the knob in your mouth, suck on it as if it were a nipple or a straw while you're moving your mouth around the head with your lips massaging the coronal ridge. The other suck is a long, sweeping one, where you suck his penis into your mouth as far as you can, and then pull your mouth back off it, sucking on it as if you were sucking the juice off a Popsicle.
Any of these moves will feel great the first few times you do them, but after a while, it's as if the penis gets immune to feeling. When you sense this, change what you're doing. You don't want his penis to go to sleep. You want it constantly stimulated as you build him up to orgasm.
He's going to cum
Okay, you've got a raging hard-on in your right hand and some tight balls in your left, lean back for just a moment and take a look at it. It's beautiful, isn't it? Move your right hand all the way to the base of the penis and squeeze it there. This will cause the shaft to fill and thicken, and by now the knob will be smooth and shining. Take his penis back into your mouth, sucking on it and trying out all your various moves until you know the man can't stand any more and he's going to blast off. What you do now is between you and your lover.
Reserves
What if it doesn't smell or taste good?
If the smell isn't something you enjoy, then tell him to go take a shower! While this is something you're doing primarily for his pleasure, that doesn't mean you have to suffer if he's lacking in hygiene! And if you're worried about germs, your mouth has millions more germs than a clean penis.
Doesn't it taste bad? Is there anything to do that fixes that?
In general, nutritionists say that alkaline-based foods such as meats and fish produce a bitter, fish taste. Dairy products, which contain a high bacterial putrefaction level, create the foulest tasting fluids by far. (Dissent: almost everyone I know says that there is one worse than a high-dairy content-- asparagus. You can't miss the taste of asparagus-laced semen.) Acidic fruits, such as sweets, fruits, and alcohol give bodily fluids a pleasant, sugary flavor. Chemically processed liquors will cause an extremely acidic taste, however, so if you're going to drink alcohol, drink high-quality, naturally fermented beers (Rolling Rock or Kirin) or sake. Take a look a the chart in the Make him taste sweet section.
What does the ejaculate consist of?
The question of semen content arises especially among persons who regularly swallow semen, as in fellatio, and who are concerned about calorie intake and nutritional substances. The average ejaculate contains aboutonia, ascorbic acid, blood-group antigens, calcium, chlorine, cholesterol, choline, citric acid, creatine, deoxyribonucleic acid (DNA), fructose, glutathione, hyaluronidase, inositol, lactic acid, magnesium, nitrogen, phosphorus, potassium, purine, pyrimidine, pyruvic acid, sodium, sorbitol, spermidine, spermine, urea, uric acid, vitamin C, vitamin B12, and zinc. The caloric content of an average ejaculate is estimated to be approximately 15 calories.
Final Words
Don't forget that sucking his penis should give you pleasure also, don't do it just because he wants you to. It's very important that your man take the time for enough foreplay to get you to the point where you want his penis in you. You'll learn to savor the sensations that come with having his penis in your mouth; you'll enjoy bringing intense pleasure to him and sharing in his climax. As you continue with your practices, don't get so caught up in the mechanics of bringing him to climax that you miss out on the fun. Suck his penis in a way that feels good to you also. There's no blowjob like a blowjob given by a happy cock-sucker who loves her work.
Before you start oral sex without protection, make sure that you and your partner are well aware of each other's sexual history. Otherwise, keep the following things in mind: a) keep semen and vaginal fluids out of your mouth, b) make sure that your mouth is healthy and that you don't have bleeding gums, cuts, or mouth sores, because the presence of blood will increase your risk.