Sexuality refers to the way in which we experience and express ourselves as sexual beings. Awareness of yourself as a male or female is all part of your sexuality, as well as the capacity you have for erotic experiences and sexual responses. We are sexual from the time we are born. Even as babies, children, celibate priests or nuns, or those who have disabilities that prevents them from engaging in 'sex'. Our sexuality always remains an basic part of ourselves. Sometimes part of our sexuality can be suppressed -- we have fantasies about particular people but don't act on or talk about them. Others have general sexual desires or fantasies about people of the same sex but don't explore or discuss those thoughts or feelings.
For the most part, people appear to be heterosexual or 'straight' (attracted to the opposite sex). From this group, majority also appear to monogamist (exclusive sexual relationship with one person, but may later be replaced by another). They've most likely been taught that a monogamous heterosexual behavior is 'normal'. That is is even the only exceptable way of living. However, there are a number of alternatives.
- Homosexuality Homosexuals (gay people) are sexually or romanically attracted to members of their own gender. The word homosexual is often used to describe homosexual men; the term lesbian is usually used to describe homosexual women. A homosexual relationship is just as complex and enjoyable (or disappointing) as a heterosexual one -- involving caring, conversation, argument, jealousy, spiritual love and deep commitment as well as sex.
- Lesbianism Lesbians are female homosexuals. They are women who are sexually or romantically attracted to other women. Lots of men believe that a woman will achieve an orgasm (or a 'good' orgasm) only if she has been well and truly penetrated by a full-size, erect and throbbing penis - but the majority of women orgasm through stimulation of the clitoris. Lesbians enjoy sex in various ways: penetration of the vagina by the finger (or fingers) and tongue, caressing and hugging, licking, tickling, squeezing, massage, gentle biting, rubbing against each other's body - the ways are limited only by the imagination of the partners and their willingness to explore.
- Bixuality Bisexuals (people who are AC/DC) are sexually or romantically attractied to members of their own sex as well as to those of the opposite sex. They are not necessarily attracted equally to both sexes. This is different from homosexuals who live as heterosexuals in order to conform to society's mores and/or their own reluctance to 'come out'.
- Celibacy Celibates are people who, by choice or circumstance, do not express their sexuality by having sex with another person. Celibacy is a viable and personally rewarding lifestyle choice for many people. It can help them focus on things other than sex -- work and creativity; the 'inner self' and spirituality; family and friends; or other aspects of a one-to-one relationship, such as sharing activities, travel, conversation and life itself.
- Polygamy Polygamists are people who have more than one sexual partner at the same time in their lives. Also refers to a person married to more than one spouse at the same time in their lives.
- Transsexuallity and Transvestism Some people believe the body they were born with is the wrong sex. The feeling may be so strong that they undergo hormone therapy and surgery to change their sex organs and become a member of the opposite sex. People who feel this way, called transsexuals, are usually, but not exclusively, male. Other people, called transvestites, get sexual 'cross-dressing' enjoyment from dressing in the clothes worn by the opposite sex. They may be straight, gay or transsexuals. Both transvestites and transsexuals are exhibiting their own brand of sexuality.
Sexual practices vary from person to person. Some straight men and women enjoy anal sex, some gay men do not. Some people are exclusively homosexual, others are exclusively heterosexual and many others fall in between - some, who are in the 'middle', are bi-sexual, desiring and enjoying sexual relations with both sexes. Most homosexual people have experienced heterosexual sex (many have married). A large percentage of heterosexual people have 'experimented' with same-sex partners, particularly during adolescence. Your guide to your own sexuality comes from the sexual desires and erotic fantasies that are the strongest to you - and these can grow or change through life as you meet new people
Cybersex is the act of performing verbal sex online. Similar to phone sex, the purpose of it is to arouse your partner with written words or through online chat. Newer technologies allow for users to plug in a mic and talk to someone online. It's extremely safe sex. With the right words, it's easy to turn your partner on take part in mutual verbal masturbation.
Recently books have been written about how to have cybersex. What either sex prefer to visualize so that you can pick the right words to stimulate your partner's mind. The brain is the most sexual organ in humans and little words can trigger strong sexual responses. Cybersex is mostly about picking the right words. Medical terms for body parts play no roll in cyber or phone sex. Learn the so called "dirty words". The naughty words that you were never taught. Use words that bring sex to the mind. Imagine making love or having sex, tell your cyber partner what you would say to a real partner. This is your chance to fulfil some fantasies.