Both sexes respond romantically and erotically to environment, ambience and atmosphere. Those all fit under the category of sexual aids. It's a well know fact that soft lighting, romantic colors, background music, pleasing aromas, soft voices and sexy clothes all help to reduce inhibitions and increase the possibility of intimacy. There are many other devices and techniques that add to sexual pleasure and which may become a necessity of some people.
Variety can heat up your sex life in many ways. Constant repetition can get boring, and boredom doesn't help keep those romantic fires burning. If you always have sex (make love) in the same way, use the same positions, and follow the same routine, it starts to get boring. Your love making starts to be predictable and your partner would start to dread what he or she knows is coming up next. There are many types of sexual aids and toys make up a portion of that list.
Get some toys for the bedroom. Vibrators aren't only for lesbians and woman masturbating. It can be used with couples. He can use it on her and vice versa. Take a look at the section on sex shops to see a small list of the types of toys that are out there for couples to use.
Make new moves. Try making love in a new location or position. Missionary is okay, but if you want her to come faster that's one of the worst positions. Try entering her from the back "doggie style". In stead of always going straight for the bedroom when you're ready to make love, be spontaneous. Why not just do it where you are (for home users only; no since in being arrested for indecent exposure)? There are public areas you can go if you want to be more of an exhibitionist. Have you ever been to a house party and couples disappear into bedrooms or bathrooms at the party. If you're dancing with your partner and the both of you get really turned on, why drive all the way back home and lose the moment when you could try a new position standing up in the restroom. You could even go out to car and remember the good old days as a teenager frantic to get a little action whatever way it came.
Dressing it up. Sexy clothing makes you feel sexy and change your attitude toward sex. Your partner would find it a turn on and in turn you would feel more confident to do things you would otherwise shy away from. Dressing up gives you a chance to be someone more daring and adventurous and add spice to your sex life.
Watch X-rated video or check out those magazines he keeps under the mattress. Usually when you talk to a female about porno, her first reaction would tend to be discuss, but don't always take that at face values. Just because a woman's arousal is not as evident as a man's doesn't mean that she isn't affected by sexual images. If you don't care to watch other people having sex, video tape your own love making and watch it together at another time. Learn from those videos what your partner couldn't voice at the time. Watch to enjoyment at certain positions and touches and just enjoy each other.
Each couple knows when there's a problem and if changing the routine can better your sex life, then change. Some couples need more help then simply changing their routine. Look in the section about male and female problems to see other obstacles that couples face. Discoveries like breast and penis enlargement as well as Viagra really changed the sex crowd.