Anal sex is not only for homosexual males. You and your partner can experiment for the first time or learn more about how to enjoy anal sex. Although it can be very enjoyable, if you're not careful or patient, anal sex can also be painful. If you and you partner have decided to have anal sex, make sure to prepare, and as with all other forms of sex, you want to be careful about protection.
Anal sex is the biggest risk for STDs (sexually transmitted diseases). The anus is not designed for a hard elongated penis to enter, and the action leaves blood vessels open, which is why majority of cases of HIV-AIDS are male homosexuals. This is not to say that you shouldn't explore this form of sex, you just need to be extra careful.
Regular condoms just don't work as well with anal sex. The typical male condom is about seven hundredths of a millimenter thick, which is much too thin to resist the friction of anal rubbing. There are thicker condoms out there for couples to use for anal sex, but for some, the feeling is just not the same. There's two ways to be sure and those are: don't do it or really know your partner. Even if you do know you partner, there are a few hygiene concerns that most couples have when they're "going anal" for the first time. They all worry about sh*t.
Just like women douch to clean themselves from within, there are similar products for the anus. Enema is a product that involves a clyster or injection, a liquid injected or to be injected into the rectum. Plain water--when only one or two injections are required--is usually perfectly acceptable. However, never forget that the standard of purity of the water is much higher than that required for drinking. If there is concern about electrolyte imbalance adding one level teaspoon of table salt or baking soda per quart of water is a good idea. Also, the more exotic enema liquids are not without high risk. The injection of any substance via rectum bypasses the body's defense systems and has risk. The use of any other substance rather than plain water, or isotonic water is questionable.
How To Perform Enema
- Insert the tube or hose (lubricate with olive oil, Crisco, KY jelly or other inert lubricant). Smaller tubes/hoses will insert easily with little lubricant.
- Many people have large buttock muscles that hide the anus. Lift the upper buttock away. Use your fingers of your weaker hand and spread the lower cheek with your thumb.
- With a clear view of the anus, gently insert the tube into the center, avoiding any hemorrhoids. Most people aim towards the belly button, but not everyone is the same. Just aim, but make sure to not use force.
- The rectum has an internal suction so the tube should slide in with no resistance. If resistance is met, then you're either going in the wrong way or there is an obstruction. Change direction or move the tube to an alternate location.
- The internal sphincter muscle may resist, if this happens hold the tube/hose lightly and wait for it to relax. A standard enema tube will go in a couple of inches, once it's in, you can start squeezing in your cleansing solution. It's best to get an enema kit the first time you do so that you have clear directions on what to do.
I'm by no means a doctor. These are pieces of information that I've gleened from books and sites all over the web. This part on enema is from a book by Dr. J. Gleen Knox BA, DC's book, Love Thine Enema and Heal Thyself.
If you're interested in doing this first, ask your doctor or read up more on the subject. For most people, however, preparation for anal sex simply involves taking a good bath with special attention to the anus. And then getting a lot of lubricants to help make insertion easier.
Now that you've cleaned up, how about actually doing the deed.
For many people, the anus and its surrounding area are very sensitive sexually, and for some it is their most erogenous zone. Stimulation, therefore, gives deep pleasurable feelings. The simplest form is merely touching your partner's anus during intercourse or oral sex. A woman can be stimulated by inserting a well-lubricated finger into her rectum and moved gently in and out while keeping your hand pressed firmly between the anus and the vulva. Make sure your finger nails are short and smooth.
When you have your finger a little way in, stay still so that your partner can become used to the sensation. For health reasons, once you insert your finger into the rectum, keep it away from the vigina and make sure you wash it right after. You may find that the anus sucks you a bit further in and if that is the case go with it. With slow pressure, you can slide your whole finger in but make sure you do not force it and that your partner is comfortable every step of the way. Talk to each other during the process to ensure maximum pleasure.